Making Breastfeeding Work — Even When You Think You Can’t

Over the past 18 months of breastfeeding my daughter, there has been a huge learning curve. SO much of what I had heard from well-meaning friends and family came in handy, but some of that information also conflicted with what instinctively felt right to me.

Through plenty of trial and error and countless hours of research, I learned a lot and am so thankful to say that even through this rollercoaster of building the Branch Basics brand coupled with supply issues, I’ve been able to feed my baby the best food Mother Nature has to offer her.

Being a mom can be hard, and breastfeeding is no exception; but when you know better, you do better. Here are a few things I’ve learned along the way.

Your Diet Matters

Hormone-driven cravings, lack of sleep, and the constant hunger that comes from nourishing another human can lead to a diet full of nutrient-depleted, convenient and carb-heavy food.

When tempted to give in, it’s important to understand that what you eat has a direct impact on your little nursling. Chemicals known as excitotoxins include common food additives designed to enhance flavor, such as artificial flavors, MSG, carrageenan, natural flavorings, hydrolyzed proteins, and isolates of which many are found in health food brands. Since a child’s brain is four times more sensitive to excitotoxins than an adult’s, these can cause overstimulation of the nervous system, leading to chronically fussy and unsettled babies in the short term and have potentially lasting effects on behavior and development in the long term.

The good news is that most babies are incredibly resilient and respond quickly to Mama’s dietary changes. We’ve seen where simply cutting out foods that contain processed ingredients and choosing those rich in vitamins,minerals like homemade bone broth, root and cruciferous vegetables, leafy greens (kale, collard, chard, bok choy, etc.) , lightly cooked eggs, sauteed seaweed and wild-caught fish. These foods nourish Baby and can have an immediate effect on sleep, skin, and overall demeanor.

Nursing is All About Supply and Demand

Not making enough milk for Baby is at the top of the list of concerns for new moms, but I have some good news: If you nurse on demand, chances are your baby is getting all that she needs. Even with just one breast producing and only getting drops of milk each time I pumped, my daughter’s size proved she was clearly getting everything she needed.

Where moms run into problems with supply is typically related to feeding schedules and not listening to their instincts. Babies nurse frequently for a variety of reasons; their little bodies are so smart, and if we ignore their nursing prompts, supply issues may soon follow. Exhausting as it may be, this process of cluster feeding is what prepares them for growth spurts and tells your body to produce more milk.

Don’t be tempted to supplement unless absolutely necessary and always consult with a lactation consultant before reaching for the formula. Supplementation is a true blessing for those who need it, but when baby skips a feed, she essentially tells your body to produce less milk, and your supply decreases to compensate. As you increase the formula to compensate for that, the cycle continues, and many moms find their supply dries up as a result. Also, many moms believe that supplementing (solids or formula) will help Baby sleep longer, but studies have shown that this is actually not true. I’ve found Kellymom.com to be an incredible resource for information on topics like this and much more.

Co-Sleeping is a Life (and Milk) Saver

Safe co-sleeping is the perfect way to facilitate the nursing relationship early on. When baby is cluster feeding in preparation for a growth spurt, getting up every 45 minutes and walking to the nursery is hardly sustainable.

World-renowned co-sleeping expert and anthropologist Dr. James McKenna argues that it is, in fact, biologically normal for the health of young infants to sleep with their mothers. It doesn’t just help your milk supply — physical contact and closeness to mothers stabilizes babies’ breathing, heart rates, and even affects their brains’ cortisol levels!

For me, co-sleeping was the answer to my being well-rested, getting ample skin-to-skin time, and developing an unforgettable bond with my daughter. Waking in the night to take in the site of my daughter curled up on her side nursing or hearing those soft little sleeping sounds – well, there is nothing more precious. Done safely, co-sleeping is a breastfeeding mother’s best friend.

Hold Onto Your “Why” When Things Get Tough

From a poor latch and nipple cracks to mastitis and exhaustion, most moms face strong reasons to call it quits at some point in their breastfeeding journey, especially if returning to work. Had I not been solid in my knowledge and convictions about the benefits of breastfeeding, I could have never sacrificed the time and poured my all into continuing on.

For me, breastmilk was the only option, and I was determined to make it to at least 12 months.

Since my daughter was eight weeks old, a clogged duct halted almost all production from my left breast, cutting a just-barely-enough supply in half. Despite hiring lactation consultants, attending La Leche League meetings, eating galactagogue foods, massaging daily, taking herbs and switching to a medical-grade pump, I still had to nurse my daughter at least every three hours – day and night –  for the first six months to meet her growing body’s needs.

In between feedings, I’d slowly unwrap myself from a sleeping babe in order to pump. I cried many tears as I watched milk drip slowly into the bottles. Well-meaning friends and family suggested I supplement, but as long as my daughter was flying through growth charts, developing beautifully and willing to patiently suckle and wait for a letdown, I was all hers.

She had her first meal at nine months, and breastmilk was her main source of nutrients well into her first year. Despite a now virtually non-existent supply due to my recent pregnancy, I still nurse on demand, and those quiet moments with my very active toddler are the absolute best parts of my day.

I don’t share these things for praise and certainly not for pity, but to emphasize the importance of knowing your “why”. I knew that this was bigger than just a bond with my baby — breastfeeding was going to give her the most perfect form of nourishment in the world.

  • Custom nutrition — Breastmilk is truly incredible, and despite years of research and meticulous manufacturing, no human-made formula comes close to replicating it. Our bodies don’t just put together one formula and continue to produce that for the duration of lactation. From colostrum to weaning, the formula of our breastmilk continues to change and evolve as our child grows, adjusting nutrients and fat content to suit their development absolutely perfectly.
  • Nature’s antibiotic — When your baby is sick, there’s no better cure than snuggles and breastfeeding. The probiotics naturally present in breastmilk help to strengthen her immune system. What’s more, as your own body is exposed to your baby’s illness, your advanced immune system creates antibodies to that virus, which are passed to your baby through your breastmilk, effectively inoculating her.
  • Unparalleled comfort — Nursing facilitates a bond unlike any other with your baby. When you nurse on demand, you tell your child time and time again that when they have a need, you will always meet it. Attachment parenting, whether or not you breastfeed, has been proven to build more confident children. We are fairly certain that our daughter’s fearless, bold, outgoing, secure demeanor has a great deal to do with our instinctive decision to meet her basic needs since day one.

With these things in mind, my daughter’s first year was just that – hers. I prioritized breastfeeding over sleep training, travel without her, many social events, and convenience. because, for me, it was that important. And I look forward to doing it all again soon with Baby #2!

Breastfeed For As Long As You Can

Breastfeeding is officially recommended for at least the first six months of life, but much of the world breastfeeds well past two years old (in many cultures, as old as six). Bottom line: breastmilk is the best thing for your children, provides incredible nutrition and immune system health, and should be done as long as everyone’s happy with the arrangement.

Quit if your health is suffering. Quit if your child naturally weans himself. (Learn more about true signs of weaning here.) But don’t quit because you feel pressure from other people to do so or – dare I say – convenience. Your body is AMAZING, and your milk is doing more for your child’s health than any round of antibiotics or “healthy” formula can hope to.

What to Do When You Can’t Breastfeed

We’re all pretty familiar with the benefits of breastfeeding, but what happens when you can’t? Donor milk is the next best thing, and if that’s not an option, look into making your own formula.

The following are powerful things you can do to boost your baby’s immune system, which is especially important if breastfeeding isn’t possible:

  • Have lots of skin-to-skin time. Nursing gives moms plenty of physical contact with their babies, which has been scientifically proven to reduce the risk of SIDS and help them bond.
  • Create a safe haven. Remove all toxic pesticides, synthetic fragrances, cleaners, conventional detergents, dryer sheets, etc. These products create a low-level chemical soup in your home, undermining you and your baby’s health. Also, investing in an organic crib mattress is one of the most important things you can do. SIDS has been directly linked to chemicals in baby mattresses.
  • Avoid harsh cleaning chemicals. Stripping your home of every germ isn’t just impossible, it’s unhealthy. Use non-toxic cleaners like Branch Basics that remove germs versus sanitize.
  • Limit bathing. Your skin has a microbiome all on its own, and we want to keep that good bacteria in place by bathing only when necessary with a mild cleanser (if any at all).
  • Use natural fibers and materials. One study discovered as many as 60% of BPA-free plastics still had these hormone-disrupting chemicals present. Avoid autoimmune dysfunction and use things like glass bottles and organic cotton clothes to avoid exposing baby to toxins.

Self Care is Critical

You can’t nourish someone else unless you nourish yourself, both physically and mentally. Stay hydrated, treat yourself to yoga (or even just a solo grocery store trip!), go on walks, watch something that will make you laugh…!

You’re a mommy, and offering your highest level of care means offering it to yourself.

What did you learn about breastfeeding your babies? Share your tips and words of wisdom with our readers in the comments below!

 

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8 Comments

  1. I commend you for supporting breastfeeding, but that photo! Big NO. Babies shouldn’t be covered like that. They need fresh air. Breastfeeding is nothing to apologize for. If others have a problem with it, it’s their problem.

    1. Are you the authority on how every woman should breastfeed, Jeanmarie? Would you expect Allison to go topless for the photo? I give your comment a big NO for how rude it is and recommend you be more considerate with your comments to other moms in the future. Or if you don’t have anything to say except your judgey opinions, then don’t say anything at all.

    2. Hi Jeanmarie! Thanks for your comment, we are definitely passionate about breastfeeding 🙂 We appreciate the feedback, but no need to worry. Allison’s shirt was thin, 100% cotton (very breathable) and had a large hole at the top that she was able to hold open for ventilation. We love that you are clearly a very caring and passionate person! Thanks again for commenting.

  2. Thanks for sharing your story!
    Breastfeeding has had many challenges for me along the way. I can’t tell you how many tears I cried the first several months because it was so painful & overwhelming. A great support system of a good friend (my biggest cheerleader & a constant source of motivation), my midwife & lactation consultant helped me stick with it when many people would have quit. It was incredibly hard at times but very rewarding. I’m still nursing my almost-3-year old daughter & 7 month old son.
    It is more socially acceptable to nurse older toddlers than it used to be but people not close to us are still shocked if they find out my daughter is still nursing. I want to help cultivate a culture of acceptance & support for other moms, regardless of their individual decisions in parenting. All moms are doing their best for their children & people on the outside looking in on them don’t know their journey or how they got where they are today. I know judgement is a typical first reaction for people in many scenarios but let’s all try to foster acceptance & support. Not everyone shares the same opinion & that’s okay.

  3. Thank you for this excellent information! I also want to encourage parents to leave their sons intact! Circumcision is painful and can negatively affect breastfeeding. Plus 80% of the worlds men are intact, NO medical organization recommends routine infant circumcision, and ALL mammals are born with foreskin for many reasons! Boys are born perfect too, and intact care is super easy! Please research more:
    https://kellymom.com/ages/newborn/newborn-concerns/circumcision/
    Yourwholebaby.org
    https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/moral-landscapes/201109/myths-about-circumcision-you-likely-believe

  4. All I’m wanting to know is where that shirt is from! ;). We’re halfway through pregnancy with our third and I’m looking for comfy clothes for our next breastfeeding journey. Kudos to you, Allison. It’s hard work! I’m so glad your little one was blessed that way . . . way to go! 🙂

    1. Hi Megan. Allison got her shirt from Madewell last summer… it could be on sale on their site, I’d check there! 🙂

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